Therapy for Men in Oakland
With Erik Kahn, LMFT · California License #146734
You may be used to handling things on your own. You show up for work, take care of people, and keep going. But maybe you’re feeling distant from your partner, losing your patience, or having a hard time enjoying your life. You don’t have to wait until things fall apart to talk to someone.
If therapy is new to you
I especially enjoy working with men who haven’t been to therapy before. You don’t need the right words or a clear explanation of what’s wrong. We can start with what’s been happening lately and what made you consider reaching out.
I started therapy myself at 30. I remember how uncomfortable it could feel to talk honestly about what I was going through. That experience is part of why I want our conversations to feel straightforward and human.
What we can work on
Some men come in because a relationship is struggling. Others are dealing with anxiety, loneliness, grief, work stress, or feeling stuck. You might want help asking for what you need, setting boundaries, understanding anger, or feeling more connected to the people you care about.
We won’t assume that being a man means the same thing to everyone. I want to understand your experience, including the expectations you grew up with and which ones still fit.
How I work
I’m warm, direct, and involved. I’ll listen, ask questions, and share what I’m noticing. We’ll look at what happens in everyday situations, including the conversations you avoid or the moments when you react before you know what you’re feeling.
My approach also includes attention to the body. Noticing a tight chest, a clenched jaw, or an urge to pull away can give us another place to start. We’ll explore those responses with curiosity and at your pace. Read more about somatic therapy.
What happens in the first session?
We’ll get to know each other and talk about what brings you in, what you want help with, and any questions you have about therapy. You can share as much or as little as you’re ready to. We’ll decide together where to begin.
Meet near Lake Merritt or online
I see clients at 123 Bay Place, Suite 7, Oakland, CA 94610, near Lake Merritt. Online sessions are available throughout California.
Schedule a free 30-minute consultation. We can talk about what you’re looking for and see whether working together feels right.